I have a confession to make. And I realize by confessing this, there is a very good chance I will be thrown against the closest available car hood, handcuffed in the non-kinky way and hurled into one of those torture cells that don’t let you fully stand up by a mob of lithe, blonde, yoga moms who all became friends via Pinterest.
But, consequences be damned. I have to get this off my chest.
My baby, my beautiful, amazing baby, turns one-year-old in less than two weeks.
Yes! I know! Big deal, right? Huge, major milestone, deal!
And…here it goes…(sigh)…I don’t have anything planned yet.
OK, Heather, Stacy and Taylor, you can put the handcuffs on now.
The worst part is that this lack of planning isn’t even something I can blame on the baby. (Although if anyone asks, that’s exactly what I’m going to do. The only reason to have children is so that you have a cherubic-faced scapegoat readily available for any and all occasions).
It’s not like he’s kept me so busy I couldn’t find a spare minute or two to make a list of people to invite. And then write out those invitations. And then plan a menu to feed all those people. And then a separate menu list just for the booze (because I think it’s cruel to invite people to a kid’s birthday party without offering them copious amounts of alcohol as compensation for showing up). And then, like, games or some crap for the people who show up with their own demon spawn. And then bake a fancy, Spiderman-themed, three-tiered, professional-looking cake that according to Facebook every other mom is capable of not only doing but doing while also making it vegan and gluten-free.
Technically, I do actually have the time to do all that stuff if I really wanted to (although it would be a great personal sacrifice considering it would severely cut down on my “X-Files” marathon watching time). And I really do want to celebrate this important event in my son’s life. I mean, he’s my favorite person in the world and I’ve celebrated far lesser events in his life so far, such as the day he got more than half of the green beans on his plate into his mouth as opposed to on the floor.
But the reasons I haven’t planned anything yet are because:
- I’m just not that mom. I’m never going to be that mom. My kid will be the one with the last-minute toilet paper mummy Halloween costume and store-bought birthday cakes that say “Congratulations, Julie!” because I forgot to order one ahead and took whatever was readily available). And…
- We don’t have any family living close by and very few of our local friends have kids close to my son’s age. Or kids at all, for that matter. And…
- He’s not even going to remember this event.
I know, I know. None of that should matter. According to modern mommy standards, I should still throw a huge party complete with organic balloons and artisan party favors and an exotic, free-range petting zoo and little marshmallow Olaf appetizers, even if the invited guests are all non-baby-having grown-ups who probably have better things to do on the weekend.
However, a part of me, the selfish part, would rather celebrate the fact my husband and I kept him alive for an entire year. I mean, my baby did absolutely nothing to help himself get to this milestone. If anything, he worked actively against surviving to the one-year mark.
But even I know it’s wrong to hire a babysitter to watch your baby on his birthday as you two go out to the bar to celebrate your parental prowess.
(Right? That’s wrong. Right? Or is it? Could we do that? No, no, no, it’s wrong. I know it’s wrong).
So, just how will we celebrate Riker’s birthday? I still have no idea. But I’m sure I’ll think of something the day before and drive myself insane trying to put it together in 24 hours.
And then just scrap the whole idea entirely three hours before showtime and text everyone to meet us at Chuck E. Cheese.
Or the closest available semi-kid-friendly bar.
I hereby award you the “most sensible, practical and awesome” mom award. Because those Pinterest moms who do the insane send-each-child-to-Disneyland-and-buy-them-each-a-pony moms have a special ring in Dante’s inferno waiting for them. And dear god, use the kids as an excuse to get out of crap for as long as you can. I can’t get away with it very legitemately any more and it’s killing me to make up a new lie every time I get invited to somethig that sucks.
Yay! An award is way better than the tar-and-feathering I was expecting.
I feel your pain. When Deja turned one, I didn’t have any friends with kids that age, so it was just family, at the park, punch, cake, and a few balloons. The most memorable part of it was when Deja howled after my mother accidentally put icing on her chin. I’d just get him a cupcake, a candle, snap a pic of him laughing and tell everyone it was the best party in history. No one will know the difference.
For a 1 year old’s party, all you need to do is sit baby in high chair, attach some bright colored balloons, put cupcake in front of him and snap a few pics of him before & after cupcake eating adventure. Because the pics is what the kid will see later. It’s good to know there is at least one new Mom out there that may help curtail all this ‘way over the top’ birthday celebration stuff. The ‘super-moms’ have made it impossible to enjoy birthdays because it’s all about one-upping the last party. And from my experience of having raised 3 kids I can tell you their favorite memories are not of bday parties but of actual activities enjoyed together as a family – it’s not the decorations that really matter but the heart & laughter shared that make a good memory.
Hilarious! Only because it’s true. And I agree – make his first birthday a celebration that you can share with your husband. I loved that bit about actively working to stay alive. You’re doing great, stay just the way you are 🙂