It’s exhausting being a chick…

This past Sunday, my husband Ryan and I were out with some friends, having a couple beers, a couple of laughs. Naturally, I was being my usual charming, slightly buzzed, self-deprecating self.

But then…THEN I had to go and make a comment about how since I’ve been struggling to find work as a writer, at least it gives me plenty of time to clean the house. HA HA!

We then moved onto other topics (mostly farts and boobs, since it was all guys save for me) but for some reason (beer, and possibly the fact I own a uterus), I got irrationally angry at my husband for not jumping into the earlier conversation and defending me.

Which is ridiculous. Defending me from what? Even my baffled husband, when confronted with my irrational anger, said “I thought you were just doing a schtick.” Technically all he was guilty of was sitting at the bar and having a good time.

And then, because I couldn’t just leave well enough alone, my husband soon after bought me the bracelet and necklace I’d been admiring from a street vendor, to which I also responded with irrational anger.

But what the poor guy didn’t realize, through no fault of his own (since he’s not a nut job crazy 30-year-old woman), is that for months I’ve been dealing with conflicting feelings on going from a full-time, hard-working journalist to being a struggling freelance writer financially dependent on her husband when we moved to Boston. And apparently on Sunday they just boiled over.

So I decided to create some visual aids to give dudes an insight into the mind of a woman. And although these aids are specific to my own neurosis, you will at least get somewhat of an idea of the way a modern woman’s mind works.

For example, chart No. 1, which I like to call “The Cycle of Guilt,” is all about my mixed feelings on being a freelancer writer and occasional photographer and not making much money:

Long before my current employment situation occurred, my husband and I had already discussed the possibility of one of us staying home with our future children if we could afford it, instead of schlepping them to daycare all the time. We agreed, as mature, rational adults, that whoever did stay home would take on the majority of the household chores since they would have more free time. Gender roles be damned.

And so, even though we don’t have kids, I have kept my end of the bargain during my non-9-to-5 lull. But seeing as I’m not really doing anything meaningful, like, oh, I don’t know, raising a human being, it is constantly sending me down what I like to call the “Cleaning Spiral of Shame”:

Of course, being a woman, I let all these feelings fester inside, which leads to the Pie Chart of Reasons for Overeating:

And for a former athlete and one-time size six, all this over-eating makes me worry even MORE and feel bad about my body, which makes me feel even MORE guilt, meaning most of my days are spent in cycles and spirals of these feelings, which leads into the Bar Graph of Time Mis-management:

And what does all of the above equal out to? What I like to call Husband-Oriented Anger Displacement:

Yeah. It’s exhausting being a chick.

Now where are those damn Oreos?

P.S. Ryan, you are a very, very tolerant man. I love you.

P.S.S. Where are the damn Oreos?

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11 responses to “It’s exhausting being a chick…

  1. Are you sure you’re not pregnant?

  2. Most definitely not. But when I am, I’m buying Ryan a helmet and some mace.

  3. great post- I love the pie chart of reasons for overeating! mine looks similar, except instead of double stuffed oreos, its mini reese peanut butter cups… so unassuming!

  4. I used to eat the mini’s…but it just took too much time and energy to rip off the paper. 🙂

  5. I can’t wait until you are pregnant……it will be so comical to be able to read about it. My husband has commented though that if you send us your address he will ship out the first case of beer and a “handbook” on survival 🙂

  6. Yeah, I figure if I get writer’s block, I’ll just get knocked up. I’m pretty sure I could do a six-parter just on the changes in my boob size alone.
    P.S. Tell your husband thanks in advance.

  7. You, chickaroo, are my idol!!! (even if you are 13 years my junior)

  8. This is one of my favorites.

  9. Cinnamon Marshall

    Hello my name is Cinnamon ( yes its my real name, no my parents aren’t hippies 😀 I am writing in hopes that you the author will read this. Currently I am attending school and wish to be a writer. I figured that for me freelance writing would be the best way to break in to the business. Someday I would like to write books but I need to continue with school. Long story , well long, I am doing a project on my dream job and I am doing it on freelance writing. I have only been published once and it was when I was fifteen and it wasn’t in any major paper. I wanted to ask what advice you might have and should I start trying to get gigs now? To build a portfolio of samples? What do I need to do first? would you mind helping me with some simple questions for my project and …..well….my future?

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